I slept with my boyfriend’s dad. And have I mentioned that I’m young-looking?

I am a 35 year old woman and I am dating a guy who is 28. He does not mind the age difference, nor do I. Also, people tell me that I look much younger. The other night my boyfriend and I went to dinner with his father, who is a widower. He is 51. I felt that his dad was kind of “flirting” with me all through dinner and I have to admit, I was flattered. His dad is extremely attractive and I have had a “thing” for older men in the past. (Maybe it has something to do with the fact that my own father left the family when I was 5.) My boyfriend, who is an ER doctor, was called in to work before we finished dinner and he asked his dad to drive me home. When we arrived at my house we sat in my driveway for almost an hour talking. I invited himĀ  in for coffee, which we never had, because the minute we got inside we ripped each other’s clothes off and had the most amazing sex I think I’ve ever had in my life! I have not seen my boyfriend since this happened and I don’t know what to do! I am attracted to his dad, but I still have feelings for my boyfriend. What should I do next? Thanks!

Move to Alaska and start over. Seriously

I understand that you’re very young-looking and people tell you that all the time which is really special, and you also have daddy issues, and that you’ve written a very interesting letter to me which sounds vaguely like something I’ve read before in a Cosmopolitan magazine advice column (seriously, who says they ripped someone’s clothes off?).

The dad is a skank for sleeping with his son’s girlfriend. You’re a skank for sleeping with your boyfriend’s dad. They clearly don’t have a good relationship with each other (or at least they shouldn’t) and any relationship you have with either one of them is going to suck. I think you need to leave these poor men to their dysfunctional relationship and start fresh by working on your self-esteem and taking a good hard look at the roots underneath your love of drama, lack of accountability for your actions, and inability to really care for another person without making it all about you.

And I also think that when you break up with your boyfriend, you should tell him what happened between you and his father. The poor kid needs to know.

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3 responses to “I slept with my boyfriend’s dad. And have I mentioned that I’m young-looking?

  1. Anonymous

    I didnt ask this, but I needed to read this. I have lots of problem with being attracted to older men due to my daddy issues.

    Great advice: take a good hard look at the roots underneath your love of drama, lack of accountability for your actions, and inability to really care for another person without making it all about you.

    I needed to hear this! Thank you.

  2. Henry

    Since she hadn’t seen her boyfriend since this incident I guess there is a chance the dad came clean to him already and he can’t bring himself to talk to her because he is so repulsed. Can’t say I blame him. It would be almost worse if the guy was ok with it.

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