My husband and I rarely have sex (or other intimacy). The reason is that I can no longer make myself enjoy it with him. He is clumsy and awkward and I just can not get turned on without tuning him out completely. I wind up having sex long before I’m ready and then it’s not enjoyable, resulting in an even lower desire to have sex. It’s a horrible cycle. Aside from this, we have a great relationship, really. I used to love sex and really thought over the years I could change him. It’s been many many years.
“Aside from this, we have a great relationship, really.” Somehow, I doubt that.
“I can no longer make myself enjoy it.” Like, you used to be able to force yourself to enjoy it? That’s so romantic.
All this isn’t his fault, you know. Either you have some sort of hormone imbalance (go ask your doctor about it; don’t be shy, it can totally be fixed), or you’re completely not into your husband, in which case I suggest you be honest with yourself, and with him, and discuss what’s really going on in your marriage.
