My wonderful boyfriend of three years is, I think, about to propose. I’m very excited about it, but I’m nervous about one thing. I think he’s going to get me a ring, and I don’t wear rings. I don’t wear much jewelry at all. I hate the way rings feel on my fingers and have never worn them. I don’t want to hurt his feelings and not wear the ring, but I also don’t want to be stuck wearing something uncomfortable for the rest of my life. What should I do?
What you should do is not agree to marry someone who, after three years of dating, doesn’t know that you don’t like rings and wouldn’t want to wear one. (And what the hell is wrong with you, anyway? Who doesn’t like diamond rings?)
If it’s just a topic that’s never come up, you should be able to broach it. Mention it casually. Like, the next time you get a phone call, say, “My phone is ringing. Oh, speaking of rings, I don’t like them. They’re uncomfortable and I never want you to feel like you have to get me one.”
See how easy that is? I would just be extra sure, before you say yes to a proposal, that you’re comfortable talking to him about everything. Because if you can’t talk to him openly now, life is going to be a hell of a lot worse after you get married.