I’ve been dating a guy for a fairly short period of time. He’s wayyy more into me than I am him. It was fun at first but now he emails and calls so much I’m starting to feel suffocated. I’m was really into him at first but he’s not giving me any space, and now it’s making me dislike him–even as he starts talking about what our children would look like. Is there any way to salvage this or do I have to break his heart?
Once, a realtor asked me out on a date after he showed me a couple apartments. We went out and at dinner, when I ordered, he was like, “I knew you were going to order that. I feel like I just know you so well.” Yes, you amazing psychic, knowing I would order a salad to go with my pizza really took incredible powers of intuition. When I asked about his family, he bitterly blurted (forever earning himself the nickname The Blurter), “I hate those people. I haven’t talked to them in years,” and went on to describe in excruciating detail all of his family drama dating back to the pioneer days. Oh, dear. Okay.
When we parted, he said, “Damn, I forgot to bring the present I got you. I bought you ice cube trays! You can never have enough ice cubes! When I come over and hang out I want to make sure we have enough ice!” At which point I decided I was never going to see him again, and I stopped on my way home and bought a taser and some mace.
Sure, it’s nice and thoughtful to bring your date a gift, but flowers will do. When you barely know someone and they immediately blurt out the icky parts of their life story, PLUS they’ve spent their spare time shopping for housewares, it’s just creepy.
Since you’re starting off on unequal footing, and you’re not as excited about him as he clearly is about you, I think you should just break it off. If you’ve only dated for a short period of time, and you already feel like cooling it off is going to break his heart, he’s probably a touch too psychotic for you, anyway. Relationships grow closer over time, and if you’re suffocated and actively dislike him at the beginning of the romance, I’m not sure this is going to head in a good direction, anyway.