I met this guy one night out on campus, felt strongly about him, and we kept in touch. He recently came back from some travels, and there was some flirting involved over Facebook, and I got really confused over what exactly was going on between us. It ended up that I messaged him and basically told him that I liked him a lot, although I was a little unsure in what way.
He replied in a couple of days and told me that he was flattered, but he only wanted to remain friends–so I might have totally misread his signals. I sent back some sort of response. The next day, I sent him a private message in response to something he posted, and he blocked me on Facebook.
I might have overstepped some personal boundaries that I didn’t know about when I wrote the message–I don’t know. When I bumped into him at school the other day, he refused to make eye contact and acted like I wasn’t even there and he didn’t see me (and I was almost standing directly in front of him).
I don’t need to know his reasons–I guess I came on too strong for him or I was too intense for his liking, or what might be likely is that I really did completely misread his intentions and he got freaked out (even though I was really sure he felt something back–I don’t think I would have written the letter otherwise).
Things are extremely awkward now. I don’t see him much around school anyway, and we mostly communicated through Facebook in any case, so I can probably just let this die and chalk it up to experience and a harsh lesson. But I don’t want to let him go without at least acknowledging the awkwardness and saying some sort of goodbye and wishing him well with his graduation and new studies. I’m thinking of sending him an email, but I don’t know if that’s being inappropriate and disrespectful and too stalkerish. He did block me, after all, which to me means he doesn’t wish any more contact, and he doesn’t strike me as the type who does that much to people.
So, should I just let this go, or should I send him the email? I’m moving on in either case.
I hope by “moving on” you mean, “leaving this poor guy alone because I’m about one email away from a restraining order.”
Imagine if the situation were reversed. Imagine that a guy was emailing you, sending you messages, professing his undying love for you despite having only met you once, and when you gently and kindly rebuffed him, he kept on emailing you. You would freak out. You wouldn’t think it was sweet, you’d be scared that one night you’d come home from the library to find him sitting on your front doorstep with a butcher knife and a bouquet of roses.
I’m skeptical about what went on here…your language is a little vague. “I sent back some sort of response.” Well. Your response doesn’t exactly sound like you wrote, “Okay, great, it was nice to meet you, see you around!” It seems to me like it could have been more along the lines of, “Okay, so I already put down the deposit for the country club for June 16th and this one wedding band’s schedule fills up really fast so I’ll just keep them booked and as far as the cake is concerned maybe I’ll just get half chocolate and half vanilla but hold the fresh strawberries and since I’m having lunch with her tomorrow I’ll just tell your mom to tell your grandmother to not worry about making a slideshow of us as children to show at the reception.”
And this: “I sent him a private message in response to something he posted.” Did that private message include a picture of you with no pants on?
You’re being cuckoo. He blocked you on Facebook. This means he doesn’t want to hear from you. Why on earth would you want to send him a message “saying some sort of goodbye?” Isn’t his intentionally removing you from his list of social contacts a goodbye enough? You’re being scary. Stop it. Go do your homework and the next time you meet someone you like, don’t contact him unless you absolutely must (“I’m going to be late for lunch; my foot got run over by a train and I’m stuck on the tracks until they can bring a crane to get me loose.”). Save your professions of like or love or undying affection for your cat. One of the most important qualities in successful adults is knowing when to take a hint.