My husband and I have been married for three years, and he just got out of his fourth stint in rehab. I love him so much, he’s my best friend, and we have a great relationship, but this is taking its toll. I feel bad even thinking this, but should I leave? We don’t have kids, I have a great job, and I just don’t know if I can take this again.
This answer is going to be wildly unpopular with my drug-addict and alcoholic readers, but: run for the hills, Sally.
I know you took a vow, sickness health blah blah blah, but four rehabs in three years? That’s too much. You can still be best friends without being married to him. You can support him and love him and not live with him or have your finances or your emotional well-being all wrapped up in him and his addictions.
I think you should leave. If he cleans up his act for a long, long time (like YEARS) and you still love him, then maybe get back together. In the mean time, perhaps you should get yourself a little therapy and figure out why you’re so attracted to such a disaster.