I met a smart, cute, friendly girl last weekend at a happy hour. She is the friend of a friend (who I’m not even that great friends with) and I’d really like to see her again. However, I’ve been told by a female friend that I’m a little too formal/business-like when I ask girls out, and that I should take it more casually.
I live half an hour away from this girl, so a date can’t really be a spur of the moment thing. Also, this week I’m swamped with work meetings, and the next two weekends are booked with work and social obligations. I would really like to see her soon, though, and keep up our initial momentum. Would it be too forward to have dinner midweek? How do I keep this going?
I’m suspicious that you’ve somehow found a time machine and are emailing me from the 1950s. From what I understand, these days, guys ask girls out by texting them things like, “Wanna hit it 2 morrow send me a pic of your boobies lol.”
Today, incidentally, is an anniversary of my first official date with my husband. We had met up with some friends for our first unofficial date, and the next day, he emailed me and said something along the lines of, “I had a great time last night, and I would like to see you again as soon as possible.” It was very nice, sweet, honest, and complimentary without being stalkerish, and it obviously worked. I think this is the way for you to go. (And unless you’re asking girls out for dinner by sending them meeting requests from your iCal, I don’t think formal is a problem. Wooing is nice. Your female friend probably has very low expectations.)
Call her and say, “I had such a nice time with you. I’m so busy with work for the next couple weekends, but I would love to see you as soon as possible. Want to have dinner next Wednesday?”