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If you buy outrageously expensive jeans in the forest, will anyone see it on the credit card bill?

Sometimes I go shopping, buy stuff, and hide it from my husband. Or I’ll lie and say it cost half as much as it does and hide the receipts, or sneak shopping bags in the house when my husband isn’t home. We just have very different ideas about how much stuff should cost. I think it’s fine to spend $200 on a pair of jeans, but since he’s unhappy when I tell him I spent $100, there’s no way I’m going to tell him the truth. We’re doing fine financially, so it’s not like I’m putting us in serious debt, but I feel uneasy about lying to him. What do you think?

I have been unjustly accused of fudging the numbers, although once in a while I’ve mumbled something about something costing “around $100,” which gives a girl a lot of leeway. But I didn’t feel right about it, because it’s not right. My husband would never lie to me about how much something cost, because when he buys something, he’s sure that it’s something he wants and that it’s worth the cost.

Maybe you should stop shopping just for the hell of it. I know I just advocated fibbing, like, two days ago, but in this case I think it’s a little smarmy and disrespectful.

But if you’re not impulse shopping to fill the gaping void in your soul, here’s a conversation that’s worked for me.

To Chea: Honey, do you like my new bag?

Mr. To Chea (giving To Chea a wicked hairy eyeball): How much did that cost?

To Chea: You don’t want to know.

Mr. To Chea: You’re right.

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How important, really, is honesty?

My boyfriend gave me some beautiful, expensive earrings as a birthday gift. I lost one almost immediately, and now he thinks I don’t like them because I never wear them. If I tell him I lost one, he’ll be annoying about it. He won’t be mad at me, necessarily, but he’s a nagging person in general and I just don’t want to listen to him complain about it. Is it wrong to just buy another pair and pretend the whole thing never happened?

If you can buy a new pair without having to eat Ramen for six months, go for it.

Your boyfriend is going to take it personally that you lost an earring, rather than see the bigger picture and accept the fact that sometimes, a girl’s head can get stuck in her sweater while she’s taking it off in a restaurant, she can flail around for a few minutes trying to get it off, and in the process, lose an earring. Not that this has ever happened to me, but I’ve heard that it happens.

Honesty is of the utmost importance in a relationship, unless being honest gains you nothing but six months of nagging, guilt, and comments like, “You look great tonight…too bad you don’t have any expensive diamond earrings to wear with that dress.”

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